By nature, I hope, I think a lot about the relationship between men and women. It seems to be the topic of many conversations, as it has been for quite some time. I wonder what will be the hot topic when all of my girlfriends and I are married (insurance rates, houses, calcium medicine). Those of us who aren’t married talk less about being with someone than we used to, though I’d say we yearn for it more day by day. That’s one thing that I find interesting about the way friendships and relationships in general evolve; we begin to talk less about things that increasingly become more important to us. I think we like to hold these feelings close to our heart as they are extremely valuable. When they reach their utmost level of importance: marriage, relationships are talked about even less. I think it’s wonderful! I have mucho respect for those who sincerely want to keep the highs and lows of marriage between the two.
I have talked to a mentor-friend of mine who speaks of when she dated her husband. She wanted to keep the feelings she had for her future husband to herself; she didn’t let everyone know how she was feeling. It was her GIFT! I want that! I want something that was started between me and the man I’m waiting for and I want it to be genuinely sacred. I don’t want a faux relationship that was conjured up by another friend trying to set me up. I’ve been forcing God’s time by trying these “set ups” out. For those who said ‘just go out for a dinner, and don’t worry if you don’t wind up liking each other,” why don’t you go out with him? Is it just me, or are failed first dates, diminished phone calls, or bad connections hard to dismiss? Takes a toll on the ol’ ego after a while.
So, “you just know.” Then I guess I’ll just wait. I think many times about the companionship I want from a relationship. I think so much about how I want a spiritual leader. A real man. I want it SO BAD and ON MY OWN TIME that I think that tool that I’m trying to make it work with may miraculously turn into a spiritual leader. PLEASE. How many girls would I chastise for doing this same thing?
I AM SO BLESSED!! I am so blessed that God has me single right now!! And, I say this for the rest of you who are without a significant other. I think it’s pretty powerful that He is preparing me and my future MAN to be together. That He is forcing me to grow right now- because I wouldn’t be doing it on my own free will right now.
Our God is good. The sole purpose for a relationship is to glorify Him. To live for Him. To help those in our path to walk with him. It works this way single or in a relationship.
Well stated, my friend!
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